Wow. A lot has changed since I wrote my last post in 2009. The guy I mentioned in that last post unfortunately didn't work out, but we are still friends. It's been a year and a half since our break-up, so I am more comfortable saying now that things didn't work out for good reasons. After being long distance for 2 years, and then spending 1 year in the same city (I moved to him because I had a terrific job opportunity in the same city), we realized that more than the distance, we were just not on the same page of life in terms of commitment. I still think he's a great guy, but after dating for 4 years, that can really put a damper on the relationship. I've found that once a relationship gets exclusive and more serious, I want to feel like I'm headed towards something with the guy. All in all, it was definitely a difficult process to get over, but I have learned tremendously from the experience.
I really thought from then on, after spending 4 years with one guy, I would just enjoy the single life for a while. And I did. Casually dating people was a great way to meet new people, boost my confidence, and re-discover what I really want in a guy. Funny thing is, one of the guys that I met really took a shine to me and did an excellent job wooing me over completely. After a few months of trying to keep him at an arm's length to keep my singledom intact, I gave in to my heart and started dating him exclusively. My new man has opened my eyes to what unconditional love feels like, and he inspires me to love bigger and love greater. I really feel so lucky. The only big issue at this point.... again... is, you guessed it, the DISTANCE! Even though I said I would NEVER do a long distance relationship again, I've somehow found myself in one again. But how could I stay away from such a wonderful guy? From someone that made my world brighter and made me want to be a better person? Another LDR I guess was just in the cards. Anyway, since we started dating, we have been long distance for over 1 year.
Long story short, I never wanted to become an expert at LDRs, but for some reason, I feel like this is what I've become. This is what made me revisit this blog - because I know that I have some tips and tricks that others could use to keep their LDRs healthy, and I know that others may have stuff to share on this blog as well. If anything, when I'm feeling discouraged, I know this blog will help give me hope again. Love is out there, but it takes work, and if I am willing, I know deep down that this one is really going to lead to my fairy tale happy ending. Good luck to all the LDRs out there!
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